Which Comes First?

I'm testing a theory. Perhaps you can weigh in on it. My theory is that fear causes hatred and hatred causes fear. Don't know which comes first or if it always comes in the same order. I'm theorizing that they're both part of the same circle and which comes first depends on which part of the circle you jump into. I've been on this quest for at least a year to notice how many times in a day I am given or give a message meant to cause fear. Whether it's a news story, an advertisement, a story from a friend about some study she's just read, a piece of health information, a religious message, or a reason I give my kids for doing what I say, there's a lot of fear based messages flying around. In my opinion, this is something to stand against where ever possible, especially when the message of fear is being used in a religious context to try to motivate people to straighten up. So here's where my theory comes in. Do these messages of fear actually end up causing hatred of something or someone (or self) or the intended changed behavior? It's an old addage that people fear what they don't understand. Does this mean that if we don't understand someone or something we will end up hating them as well? Could this be a key to making war obsolete? How far could this go?

"...but we are not given a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-dicipline" 2 Timothy 1:7